Each year at this time, as the holiday of Purim approaches, I begin to refer to my friend Esther as “Queen Esther” I have been very blessed to have found friends who have taught me about generosity, charity, and chesed (kindness). Sometimes I think that by the grace of G-d, they found me! These women have pointed me toward a path of living a noble and enriching life through the mitzvot they perform and the glee with which they do so. While I am a total work-in-progress, these women encourage my growth and my choices.
I came across excerpts from an essay called “Friends for Life” on the Aish.com website (March 2008) written by Rabbi Dan Roth. He writes about what the Mishnah says regarding the purpose of having a friend: “The purpose of making a friend is to have someone to learn from and grow spiritually, someone who will encourage you to keep the mitzvot properly and point out areas that need improvement should you fail.” Rabbi Roth says that we should look for friends who are at a level above ourselves. “A friend should be someone who will inspire us to grow and whose traits we wish to emulate,” he says. The Mishnah teaches us that we must “buy a friend in order to keep a friend for life.”