In a 14-year study of married couples, conducted by the Gottman Institute and published in the Journal of Marriage and Family Therapy in 2000, psychologists were able to predict divorce correctly 93 percent of the time by watching the couples fight.Every relationship has conflict, but any couples therapist will tell you that how couples fight is more important than what they fight about or how often. Learning how to fight effectively and kindly is an essential skill in any relationship, and particularly so in a marriage.
Back and neck discomfort can develop at any age as a result of weakened muscles, lack of exercise, and poor posture. The suggestions I make in this article can help address common muscle tension. (If you are experiencing chronic pain or numbness, contact a doctor.)
I’m going to walk you through simple methods for how to release tension in the lumbar spine, thoracic spine, and cervical spine. Having discomfort in these areas can reduce range of motion and regular functioning, such as limiting how far you can stride or how high you can raise your arm, and just ruin your day.
“How to Be a Friend: A Guide to Making Friends and Keeping Them”by Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown
When I heard that this issue of Kol HaBirah was going to be showcasing local camps, I immediately thought of the opportunity kids have to learn and practice friendship skills in summer camp settings. Therefore, I decided to profile the book “How to Be a Friend: A Guide to Making Friends and Keeping Them.”
This children’s book is recommended for kids ages four to eight, and I have also used it in therapy with older kids who benefit from learning concrete social skills with a visual presentation. Some takeaways include:
Are you finding it difficult to keep up with your healthy New Year’s habits? Trying to bounce back after overindulging on Purim? Tackle your health with renewed energy in March during National Nutrition Month and remember that small changes, made over time, can add up.
The 2017 National Nutrition Month theme, “Put Your Best Fork Forward,” encourages everyone to start small—one forkful at a time. Whether you’re planning meals to prepare at home or making selections when dining out, it’s crucial to develop a healthy eating style that you can maintain.
“To make lasting, healthful changes to your eating habits, it’s important to start small,” says registered dietitian nutritionist and Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics spokesperson Caroline Passerrello. “Registered dietitian nutritionists can help you develop personalized solutions that will keep you healthy and allow you to still enjoy your favorite foods throughout your entire life.”
I was recently sent a cute “Countdown to Passover” ticker, reminding me that Passover is only 63 days away. And while I almost had a conniption about this (How will I ever pull it together by then?), I remembered that we first get to celebrate the more joyous and upbeat holiday of Purim.
I have always felt a connection to Purim because I am so interested in the many themes of the story of Queen Esther, the biblical heroine for whom I was named. The name Esther is a Persian name, derived from the word ishtar (star), but there is another meaning to the name in Hebrew, which is “hidden.” One of the themes of the story of Purim is how G-d is hidden in everything, and often sends us the “remedy before the plague.” In the story of Purim, He placed Esther, the ultimate heroine, in the palace of the king before the decree to kill all the Jews was made. Once the evil Haman had suggested the murder of the Jewish people, Esther had already earned her keep in the palace and was able to convince her husband to stop this decree from moving forward. By placing Esther in the good graces of the king early on, G-d had performed a miracle for us, regardless of whether the Jews of the time were aware of it.
Recently, I led a session for fifth graders at a local private school on the topic, “Putting Yourself in Someone Else’s Shoes.” As part of the workshop, each child was invited to share an instance where they had felt disrespected (“Last week, a boy told me that I was the dumbest kid he ever met.”) and a peer was invited to reflect on what that student might have felt in that moment (“He must have felt really embarrassed.”).
Incorporating lessons into school curriculum, such as this one on empathy, can help children learn to respect others coming from various cultures, religions and socioeconomic backgrounds. As a result, they are less likely to engage in negative behaviors that can cause physical and emotional harm.
We spend a lot of time throughout the day gathering information and reviewing it. What do I need for work? What do I need for home? What tasks need to get done? Did someone ask me to do carpool today? Many of us rely on something external to help us recall all this information rather than rely on memory alone, aiding us to make the best decisions all day and helping us plan how to get everything done. Whether it’s old Post-It notes, day planners, or apps on our smartphones, we tend to have something handy to help us accomplish the things we want to get done.
There are four major practices or measures of wellbeing that health and wellness professionals suggest should be monitored: mindfulness, sleep, activity, and nutrition. Keeping a record of these four functions has demonstrated gains in overall health, stress reduction, restful sleep, and improved problem solving. I am going to discuss some techniques to monitor and manage each of these four, including some cool technological solutions.
One morning, many years ago, when I was a young man, I woke up unable to move without terrific pain in my back. Any way I tried to turn produced previously unknown and unbelievable pain. No one was home and I could not figure out how to get out of bed and call for help. Finally, I managed to slither out of bed and over to the phone.
The next time I experienced back pain, I was running some phone wires in my room one Sunday. After completing the work, I could hardly stand up. To make matters worse, I had to get in my car and drive three hours because I had an exam the next morning! I have had more experiences with back pain since then.
In all those instances, my back pain stemmed from soft tissue problems; in other words, muscle spasms. I am now familiar with all the muscles in the back from the neck down, so I now know exactly which muscles contracted so forcefully in my back and caused me so much pain and immobility.
Yes, real scientists in a real laboratory did a real study to conclude that getting hammered hinders your ability to produce new muscle fibers. However, not all studies concluded that consuming alcohol was necessarily always a bad choice for a post-workout refreshment.
Here are some interesting facts: an alcoholic beverage contains antioxidants, electrolytes and carbohydrates. In some ways, it’s not much different than a sugar free Gatorade, because a regular Gatorade has about 30 grams of sugar and beer has none. It’s also interesting to note that an alcoholic beverage such as beer has metabolic benefits such as improved blood flow that can offset some of the metabolic issues that may have arisen from poor diet and lack of exercise over an extended period.
Determined and devoted to helping others, Lydia Glucksberg founded STAR Medical Staffing to provide high-quality in-home healthcare and concierge services. She turned her personal family experiences into a successful, innovative business model: a hands-on, family-run homecare service that treats both clients and workers as family.
Lydia Geller Glucksberg recalls all the challenges she faced over the years caring at home for her now-adult autistic son as well as elderly parents and friends. She took a hard look at “the good, the bad, and the ugly” of finding reliable in-home healthcare and realized her calling. She knew what had to be done to fill the void and she does it like no one else. “It takes character and high standards. Providing reliable in-home healthcare is based on kindness and respect,” she says.
“...the simplest human contact could come to the rescue. One had only to take her hand, or touch her in the lightest possible way, for her to ‘awaken’...” –– Oliver Sacks, “Awakenings”
In the course of my work, I have borne witness to several clients experiencing the onset of Parkinson’s disease. They are dealing with and adjusting to the degenerative nature of this disease, and wondering how to deal with the possible loss of independence.