Dayenu: When Enough is Enough

Written by Rachel Burnham on . Posted in Dating

A Reader Asks:

I was blessed to grow up in a warm, loving, and healthy home. My parents provided the paradigm of marriage that I aspire to emulate, and my image of the woman I’m looking to marry incorporates many traits I’ve seen in my mother. I respect her intellectual curiosity and deep emotional intuition, as well as her humility and quiet confidence. She’s a multi-tasker who seems to be able to “do it all” with grace, warmth, and calm. Beyond her full-time work, running a home, and raising children, she’s always made her relationship with G-d and contributions to the community a central part of her life.

The Beauty Pageant

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Physical beauty, physical attraction: How much weight should we give it? Is our process of choosing who to date that different from the beauty pageants of Achashvarosh? Haven’t we simply replaced his beauty-driven search with resumes, profiles, Facebook, and Jswipe?

The Journey from We to I: When Moving on After a Breakup Seems Impossible

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A Reader Asks:

 I recently broke up with a girl I had been dating for six months. We had so much in common, great chemistry, attraction, respect, shared common goals and values, and were heading toward engagement. Just as I was planning the perfect proposal, she called to tell me, she “just can’t do it.” I am beyond heartbroken. I don’t understand it and can’t get her out of my mind. I feel rejected, depressed, hurt, and unable to move forward. I don’t want to be with anyone else. Where do I go from here?

The Dating Deadlock — Who’s at Fault Anyway?

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Why are today’s singles finding it so difficult to settle down? Why are marriages not as long-lasting as they once were? How can we as a community help rectify this so that our singles quickly find life-long relationships they so deeply desire?

Fresh Beginnings

Written by Rachel Burnham on . Posted in Dating

The new year is coming and there’s no time like the present to reflect on how you can make this year better for dating. Hopefully, this will be the last year of your dating career.

As I always say, “Last year’s strategy, last year’s results.” So, how can you put a fresh face on your old dating outlook?

A Singular Experience: Making the Most of Your Single Days

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A Reader Asks:

I am an intelligent, accomplished, and passionate professional doing what I can to find the woman with whom I’m eager to spend my life. I know I’ll find her when the time is right; but in the meantime, I can’t help but feel that I’m waiting for my life to start. I don’t want to be unfulfilled, and would hate to look back with regret on this stage of my life. How would you recommend that I make the most of my single days?

The Journey from ‘I’ to ‘We’

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I am often approached by singles who are dedicated to the idea of marriage. When an actual opportunity with great potential arises, however, they begin to panic, worry, and have misgivings, many of which have nothing to do with the man or woman they are dating.

Dating with Mental Illness

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A Reader Asks:

For many years, I have managed my depression and anxiety with the help of a supportive family, medical professionals, and learned coping strategies. I recently entered the dating scene and feel judged and hurt by those choosing not to date me because of my illness. How early in the dating process am I required to disclose that I have a mental health condition? How should I feel about those choosing to not give me a chance? I have many wonderful traits that can and should be appreciated in a relationship. Don’t I deserve to be married too?

My Prayer

Written by Shaina Gold on . Posted in Dating

I like to be in control. Don’t we all? Life can be so unpredictable that we do everything in our power to maintain a semblence of control. This summer, though, I was repeatedly reminded by G-d that He is in charge, not me.

Trust, and Try

Written by Shaina Gold on . Posted in Dating

Whenever my friend and I have a ladies’ night out, we always end up in some type of philosophical conversation. Most recently, we got to talking about whether we had become complacent with being single. Should we make more of an effort when it comes to dating, or should we just put our faith in G-d?