Birds of a Feather or Opposites Attract?

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A Reader Asks:

In my dating life so far, I have looked for someone with a different personality from mine because everyone always says “opposites attract.” Recently, I have found that I connect more easily with those that are more similar to me. Is there an approach that can lead me to a healthier and more lasting relationship?

Tips for Making your First Date Lead to a Second Date

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A Reader Asks:

 I go out on many first dates and often get turned down for another. I wish my dates would at least give me a second chance. Am I doing something wrong? I know first impressions are important, but are they the only thing that matters? What can I do to improve my overall chances of at least landing a second date?

A 'Hands-Off' Approach to Dating

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A Reader Asks:

 Although I did not grow up a religious Jew, I became more religiously observant over time and have been practicing shomer negiah (not touching the opposite gender until marriage) as an adult. I have been dating a man for eight months, and it’s going well, but I broke shomer negiah with him a few months ago. I feel badly, but think we have a stronger relationship because of it.

Breaking Free From Emotional Enslavement

Written by Rachel Burnham on . Posted in Dating

Amidst the hustle and bustle of pre-Pesach preparations, we find ourselves preoccupied with cleaning, shopping, and cooking. It’s that time of year again, when we think of slavery, freedom, four cups of wine, miracles, and — of course — that long-awaited fresh springtime air!

Unmasking the Hidden Gem

Written by Rachel Burham on . Posted in Dating

A Reader Asks:

 Am I the only one who feels like there is nobody to date? I am a 29-year-old single; I have dated the people potentially suitable for me in my area (and several beyond!) and none of those relationships worked out. I do get additional suggestions, but they are mostly out of left field and are not what I am looking for. Does my bashert (soulmate) even exist? Any suggestions on how to move forward? I feel like I’ve hit a brick wall.

Five Ways to Attract the Relationship You Want but Can’t Find

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A Reader Asks:

When I describe the qualities I’m looking for in a spouse to a friend, matchmaker, or family member, I detail goals and values, what I respect and appreciate in a date, and aspects of my personality. Frustratingly, I’m repeatedly disappointed at the options that come my way. Is it me? Am I not being clear? Does that person not exist? How do I change this pattern of bad or wrong dates?

Penny Short and Pound Foolish

Written by Rachel Burnham on . Posted in Dating

A Reader Asks:

I often find myself scrambling for ideas of where to take a girl out on a date, mostly since finances are tight but I want a girl to feel special and appreciated. My finances also impact my ability to travel for dating, to afford dating websites, dating events, and how I dress on a date. Perhaps most importantly, I’m self-conscious about how I’m perceived by the girl I’m dating and my confidence in being able to provide for a wife and family someday suffers. What can I do to maximize my dating success with limited finances?

When It Comes to Dating, Is It All ‘Location, Location, Location’?

Written by Rachel Burnham on . Posted in Dating

A Reader Asks:

I often hear from friends, family, and well-meaning neighbors that I should consider moving to a larger dating scene, such as Israel or New York. They believe that my opportunities for finding a match would be greater there. I have a great job, family, a support system, and a community I love where I’m currently living. Is the grass really that much greener on the other side? Am I selling myself short by not moving?

10 Tips to Making Dating Events Work for You

Written by Rachel Burnham on . Posted in Dating

I recall the overwhelming feeling of walking into yet another singles event. Here we go again! The nerves, the anticipation: Who will be there? How do I look? Will this just be another one of those events where I put myself out there and once again leave empty-handed?

The Heartbreak of Dating with a Disability in the Jewish World

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Eleven years ago, I appeared in front of the Rabbinical Council of America to gain their permission to officially convert to Judaism. The Rabbi asked me one pointed, unforgettable question: “As a goy, you are able to marry most anyone in the world. Why would you convert and limit yourself to less than 2 percent of the population?” For me, the answer was simple. I only wished to marry a Jewish man and to raise my children with Jewish values. If I remained a goy, I would be unable to marry anyone. Alas, over a decade later, I am still unmarried.

What About You?

Written by Rachel Burnham on . Posted in Dating

A little selfishness is a good thing, even in a relationship.

I grew up in a home where giving was loving. When I began dating I began giving, sometimes a bit too much; it would go either unappreciated or unreciprocated, and I’d start to become resentful. How can I learn to give in a comfortable and healthy way without compromising who I am and what I need in a relationship?