On the final night of Chanukah, I sat looking at the candles and was reminded of the purpose of the holiday — to express gratitude and praise for G-d for the miracles that He does for us. As with all reminders, the candles begged the question that they were there to answer: If we are a people known for gratitude (Yehudim), why do we need to be reminded to express it?
I am a shomer Shabbos Jew who works in a small office with a non-Jewish boss. My boss is amazing: She lets me leave early on Fridays in the winter, and is really good about accommodating the 13 days I take off each year for Yom Tov. However, a young Jewish woman who was recently hired is taking early Fridays and all the holidays off as well — even though she is secular! It really annoys me; I feel like she is piggybacking on my religious observance to take these holidays off, while not actually observing them. I am afraid that if my boss finds out, she’ll think I am doing the same thing. What do I do?
In this issue, we begin our discussion of resumes by addressing two issues: What is a resume? How long should your resume be?
At the outset, it is important to note that a great resume is not an end in and of itself. It is a means to land an interview, the next stage in the process of landing a job.
Summarizing your life in only three minutes can be a daunting challenge unless you are well-prepared for it.
At a job interview, interviewers often open the conversation with: “Tell me about yourself.” Why are these four words so ubiquitous in interviews? A company wants to know whether you can meet its needs and whether you are a good fit for the company’s culture. On a deeper level, the company may want to discern whether you are a serious candidate; whether you have figured out how to “play the game.”
I have a friend, “Sara,” who is driving me crazy. We are both married, in our 30s, and have several children. Although we have a lot of fun together and socialize as families quite often, she has a habit of complaining about her life in a way that I find excessive. She complains she is overweight (she’s not), her kids are difficult (they’re not), her house is too small (it’s not), etc. How do I respond when she says these things? I want to be a good, empathetic friend, but this drives me nuts. Please help!
On the one hand, I am relieved that all those three-day Yom Tovs are behind me, what with the cooking, cleaning, serving, and mandated family time. On the other hand, there are a lot of fun family and friend times that go with them, not to mention the spiritual elevation that accompanies Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, especially. I want to get back to my “normal” schedule (I am certainly looking forward to my kids finally getting back to school), without losing my sense of being immersed in Judaism and spirituality.
Please don’t say you stayed in the marriage for me, and that you were unhappy all these years, to make sure I was happy. That’s too much pressure for my small shoulders.
Don’t look at my bad qualities and say, “You’re just like your mother.” Where does that leave me? If I’m just like my mom and you can leave her, then who’s to say you won’t leave me too one day?
You divorced my father. I didn’t. Respect our relationship, and that I need him in my life.
I am very close friends with a married couple, “Sam” and “Rebecca.” Recently, Sam confided in me that he is using a dating app that rhymes with Hinder to meet up with other women on a regular basis. He says it doesn’t “mean anything,” and that he isn’t going to stop. What do I do? Should I tell Rebecca? Should I try to talk Sam out of doing what he’s doing? I am totally shocked and can’t stop thinking about it. Help!
The early decision/early action deadlines may have already passed for many colleges — many have Nov. 1 or Nov. 15 application deadlines for priority admission — but regular decision deadlines aren’t until December, January, or even February for most schools. That means there are still tons of opportunities to submit a memorable, poignant, or hilarious essay that gains you entry to the school of your dreams.
Parents and teachers — in Hebrew, the root word for both is the same: to enlighten. As parents, we fervently hope that our children’s teachers will seek out ways to enlighten our kids. In fact, we not only want them to enlighten their minds toward intellectual success, but we also want them to enlighten their hearts toward their world, G-d, and their internal selves.
Rabbi Horowitz will be in White Oak for Shabbat Nov. 3-4 and will speak Nov. 4 at 8:30 p.m.
Rabbi Yakov Horowitz was a rebbe for 15 years when he began to notice behavior patterns in his students. Educationally, the kids were fed up with learning Gemara and with rebbes. They didn’t enjoy it. They were taught by rote; not in a way they could actually learn. It was boring and antiquated. Further, they didn’t feel emotionally cared for. They were not noticed as individuals or viewed as worthwhile if they couldn’t learn. They were becoming disenfranchised, and worse, disinterested.
- SAT or ACT: The Final Frontier
- Introducing: Career Confidential
- Five Ways to Scare Off Your Date
- Fretting Over Family
- Loving Ourselves
- Standardized Test Soup for the Graduate School Soul
- Forgiving What You Can’t Forget
- Looking to the Stars for Love
- Picking the Right Email Address and Head Shot
- Look Who’s Coming for Rosh Hashanah Dinner