I love driving carpool. Would you like to know why? I love how clean my car is after each kid diligently takes his or her trash out upon exiting the vehicle. Who can forget the completely peaceful negotiations about who sits in which seat? Each child is more willing than the next to let a sibling sit in the front. The fresh smell of teenage boys at the end of a long and sweaty day of class and basketball practice is especially nice. Finally, there is the punctuality of all the kids that I drive each day, never once tempting me to beep the…beep beep beep…the horn… beep beep beep…
Chad, I have been a renter for my entire adult life. My accountant is recommending that I purchase a home. I don’t understand why this would benefit me financially beyond serving as a tax break. Can you help? — Sarah M.
In Orthodox Jewish circles, early marriages and large families are the norm. Dating is oriented towards marriage, as family is the foundation of the Orthodox Jewish way of life. At present, single Orthodox women are going through a crisis of sorts as there are significantly more single women than single men. This imbalance leaves many young women singlelate into their 30s and 40s, a problem the Orthodox community is grappling with although it is unclear how it started in the first place. Dating in their mid 30s to late 40s leaves women and any potential partner they meet unsure of whether to ignore or address potential fertility issues that may occur with the “older” single woman. Does one bring it up while dating? Is it timely and appropriate to deal with while dating or should the focus be more on the relationship, and fertility left in the hands of G-d?
We are having a seder with my extended family and I am really dreading it. Although my machatunim (in-laws) say that they want everyone to be comfortable and people should feel free to do what they want, every year they roll their eyes and make comments about the family tradition when I try to eat the right amount of maror (bitter herb), for example, based on what I have been taught by my own parents, teachers, and rabbis.
With Passover shortly upon us, it’s easy to hold a seder where all guests — with and without disabilities — feel welcomed, respected, and have fun. However, with all the sitting still and prayers, holidays can be somewhat challenging for people with ADHD issues.Moreover, at Passover, children with learning disabilities generally do not want to be called on to read the part of the “Simple Child. But Moses had a speech disability — and he is our role model and hero! So all it takes is some planning. Thus, here are some tips to ensure your gatherings are inclusive, thoughtful, and welcoming to all.
You are approaching the finish line. In fact, if you are reading this article before Pesach has started, that is a good sign that you are conscious, are still able to formulate words and sentences, and haven’t experienced permanent damage from inhaled bleach fumes. Therefore, we can move on to thinking about chol hamoed. Because just when you think you can’t cook one more thing, your family will wake up the morning after a beautiful two days of Yom Tov and want … more food. Oh, and they also expect to do fun things, like trips that involve planning and directions and food that needs to be packed. This is all very real, especially because your kids will be forced to answer their friends’ intense scrutiny after Pesach,when they receive the inevitable “What did you do on chol hamoed?” questions from their friends.
Social media platforms like LinkedIn and Facebook are an increasingly important tool in any job search.
Most of us have been set up with someone who was not a match, but with whom we shared maybe one or two commonalities; family history, or height, for example. Don’t we wish people would reflect on the inner intricacies of our personality, interests, goals, and values to find us an appropriate, balanced shidduch?
Chad, I’m interested in buying a home, but since I have been looking, rates have gone up. I have some that are telling me that rates may move down, but I am afraid they will go up even more. What should I do?
The first point I want to make is that there is no way anyone can predict which direction interest rates will move in the future — just as you can’t predict the movements in the stock market. Because of this uncertainty, even after you purchase, one of the most perplexing decisions someone has to make is when to lock in an interest rate on their new mortgage.
Let’s say you saw a job opening last week that appealed to you and you submitted your resume. It’s safe to assume that you’re not the only person who applied. Perhaps 10 — or 500 — other people also applied. Therefore, it is critical that your resume stands out.
To do so, it’s important to demonstrate the contributions that made you stand out in your previous and current jobs. What you accomplished in the past can help the employer assess what you can contribute in the future.
Author’s note: These vignettes are true stories based on true stories. All characters are real; names have been changed to protect the innocent. Hindsight is 20/20. I share my world with you because 1.) my life is crazy and hilarious, 2.) we are so immersed in our mundane hectic lives that we forget to stop and smell the roses, and 3.) by stopping to hear my tales, maybe you’ll be reminded to see the silver lining in your life and take some laughs along the way.
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