Pesach Panic

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Dear Rivkie,

 As soon as we are finished putting away our Purim costumes, I feel like I have to begin preparing for Pesach! Somehow, it seems to sneak up on me every year. How do I make preparations less harried in the four weeks between Purim and Pesach?

Purim Puzzle

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Dear Rivkie,

 With Purim coming up, it occurs to me that from year to year I forget how stressful it can be, specifically giving out shalach manos (Purim gift baskets, also referred to as mishloach manot). There’s the halachic obligation, but there are also social pressures. For example, do I need to give one to everyone who gives to me? And it seems like so many people develop elaborate themes, making the rest of us feel inadequate. Is it okay to stick with something simple? Then there’s the driving — where is the “boundary” for delivery?

The Case Against Standardized Testing

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Results from a 2016 survey conducted by the National Association for College Admission Counseling showed 82.2 percent of colleges attributed either “considerable importance” or “moderate importance” to ACT or SAT test scores in admission decisions on first-time freshmen. Last month, we featured an article on the case for the importance of standardized testing in college admissions, but a case can also be made for not taking, or reporting scores for, these seemingly all-important tests.

A Hesitant Hostess

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Dear Rivkie,

 My neighbors have a child with disabilities; he is wheelchair-bound and non-verbal, although he does smile and sometimes responds in his own way to people when they speak to him. I know his family wants to feel included in the community, which of course means Shabbos meal invitations. I really want to invite them, but I honestly don’t know how to act, what to say, and how to not be weird overall. Complicating matters is that I have a couple of young children, and I’m afraid they’re going to say all kinds of awkward, offensive things if we do have this family over. I feel so guilty that I haven’t invited them in the year that we’ve been neighbors. Any advice?

A Weighty Situation

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Dear Rivkie,

I am a 20-something, single, plus-sized woman and I am very happy with myself. I am successful, attractive, stylish, and have plenty of friends. The problem is that my parents, who are both in the health field, have been making comments about my weight since, well, forever. They watch me closely when I eat and aren’t shy about telling me what they think about it at every turn. I think they mean well; they want me to be healthy. But, Rivkie, I am healthy! I eat nutritiously, exercise moderately, and don’t smoke or drink. Sure, I like to eat out once in a while and eat dessert on Shabbos, but overall, I am proud of my health habits. How do I explain this to my parents without starting a fight?

The Case for Standardized Testing

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Talk to any teacher and you’ll hear strong opinions on the topic of standardized testing. “It’s blatantly unfair!” opponents cry. “Teaching to the test ruins schools!” The proponents then chime in: “How else can we accurately measure large numbers of students? How do we ensure students applying to college are actually college-ready?”

LinkedIn Tips

Written by David Marwick for KempMillJobAssist on . Posted in Advice Columns

Following up on our Jan. 25 article about the differences between your resume and your LinkedIn profile, here are four tips for getting the most out of LinkedIn.

A Concerned Colleague

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Dear JCADA,

 I’m worried that my work friend “Elena” is in an abusive relationship. She used to vent to me all the time about her boyfriend, “Josh”; how he is so uptight, and how much they fight. At one point, she told me he grabbed her during a bad fight, which really scared her. I told her that it scared me, too, and that it sounds like Josh doesn’t deserve to be with her.

The Need for Sleep

Written by Laura Goldman on . Posted in Advice Columns

It’s a familiar refrain. “I’m not tired!I’m fine.I don’t want to go to bed!”

Depending on the age, children may want to stay up because they don’t want to miss out on what the family is doing.There may be a special event, or a parent who hasn’t arrived home yet.They may want to feel more like adults or their older siblings.They may want to continue reading, watching, playing, or hangin’.Or, in the case of teenagers, their circadian rhythm is changing and they just aren’t tired as early anymore.

Job Search Nugget: Resume vs. LinkedIn

Written by David Marwick, KempMillJobAssist on . Posted in Advice Columns

Your resume and your LinkedIn profile are both intended to interest a potential employer in hiring you, or at least in interviewing you. Both recount your work experience, education, and related information. But they differ in four significant ways:

First, your resume should be tailored, or customized, to a specific job opening. In contrast, your LinkedIn profile should cover all of your relevant education and experience. 

Managing the Free Time that Comes with Retirement

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Dear Rivkie,

 I recently retired from a long and, I like to think, successful career. While raising a sizable family and working full time, I managed to squeeze in some volunteer work here and there, but I wasn’t able to volunteer as many hours as I would have if I were unconstrained by work and family. Now, however, I am constantly asked to do projects for organizations in the community, and I don’t know how to say no.