A Weighty Situation

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Dear Rivkie,

I am a 20-something, single, plus-sized woman and I am very happy with myself. I am successful, attractive, stylish, and have plenty of friends. The problem is that my parents, who are both in the health field, have been making comments about my weight since, well, forever. They watch me closely when I eat and aren’t shy about telling me what they think about it at every turn. I think they mean well; they want me to be healthy. But, Rivkie, I am healthy! I eat nutritiously, exercise moderately, and don’t smoke or drink. Sure, I like to eat out once in a while and eat dessert on Shabbos, but overall, I am proud of my health habits. How do I explain this to my parents without starting a fight?

Job Search Nugget: Resume vs. LinkedIn

Written by David Marwick, KempMillJobAssist on . Posted in Advice Columns

Your resume and your LinkedIn profile are both intended to interest a potential employer in hiring you, or at least in interviewing you. Both recount your work experience, education, and related information. But they differ in four significant ways:

First, your resume should be tailored, or customized, to a specific job opening. In contrast, your LinkedIn profile should cover all of your relevant education and experience. 

Managing the Free Time that Comes with Retirement

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Dear Rivkie,

 I recently retired from a long and, I like to think, successful career. While raising a sizable family and working full time, I managed to squeeze in some volunteer work here and there, but I wasn’t able to volunteer as many hours as I would have if I were unconstrained by work and family. Now, however, I am constantly asked to do projects for organizations in the community, and I don’t know how to say no.

Poser Problem

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Dear Rivkie,

 I am a shomer Shabbos Jew who works in a small office with a non-Jewish boss. My boss is amazing: She lets me leave early on Fridays in the winter, and is really good about accommodating the 13 days I take off each year for Yom Tov. However, a young Jewish woman who was recently hired is taking early Fridays and all the holidays off as well — even though she is secular! It really annoys me; I feel like she is piggybacking on my religious observance to take these holidays off, while not actually observing them. I am afraid that if my boss finds out, she’ll think I am doing the same thing. What do I do?

Resumes – Part 1

Written by David Marwick for KempMillJobAssist on . Posted in Advice Columns

In this issue, we begin our discussion of resumes by addressing two issues: What is a resume? How long should your resume be?

At the outset, it is important to note that a great resume is not an end in and of itself. It is a means to land an interview, the next stage in the process of landing a job.

The Case for Standardized Testing

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Talk to any teacher and you’ll hear strong opinions on the topic of standardized testing. “It’s blatantly unfair!” opponents cry. “Teaching to the test ruins schools!” The proponents then chime in: “How else can we accurately measure large numbers of students? How do we ensure students applying to college are actually college-ready?”

How to Customize Your Resume

Written by David Marwick, KempMillJobAssist on . Posted in Advice Columns

If you have one standard resume and use it to apply for diverse jobs, you’re wasting your time. Instead, it is now widely accepted that you must carefully customize your resume for each vacancy.

At a Job Assist workshop in 2013 (available at http://JobAssist.org/resources/resumes/), we presented an actual announcement for a nursing job and illustrated how a hypothetical candidate could analyze her suitability for the position and craft the appropriate resume for her application.

Thoughts on Gratitude

Written by Laura Goldman on . Posted in Advice Columns

On the final night of Chanukah, I sat looking at the candles and was reminded of the purpose of the holiday — to express gratitude and praise for G-d for the miracles that He does for us. As with all reminders, the candles begged the question that they were there to answer: If we are a people known for gratitude (Yehudim), why do we need to be reminded to express it?

I Wish You Knew: A Child’s View on Divorce

Written by Daniella English on . Posted in Advice Columns

Please don’t say you stayed in the marriage for me, and that you were unhappy all these years, to make sure I was happy. That’s too much pressure for my small shoulders.

Don’t look at my bad qualities and say, “You’re just like your mother.” Where does that leave me? If I’m just like my mom and you can leave her, then who’s to say you won’t leave me too one day?

You divorced my father. I didn’t. Respect our relationship, and that I need him in my life.

More Than Flirting with Disaster

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Dear Rivkie,

 I am very close friends with a married couple, “Sam” and “Rebecca.” Recently, Sam confided in me that he is using a dating app that rhymes with Hinder to meet up with other women on a regular basis. He says it doesn’t “mean anything,” and that he isn’t going to stop. What do I do? Should I tell Rebecca? Should I try to talk Sam out of doing what he’s doing? I am totally shocked and can’t stop thinking about it. Help!